5 Habits To Quit To Minimize Stress

Let’s face it, sometimes these habits just creep up on us. They are often little, even subconscious things we do that cause stress. 

Here are 5 common, everyday habits that could be causing you unnecessary stress.

With a few resolutions, this will help you minimize stress and live well!

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Procrastination 

The problem: The suspense or underlying anxiety and head space you create for yourself unbeknownst to you of putting something off steals your free time before you start to work because you are thinking and even dreading getting started in the first place.

The resolution: Don’t let those thoughts become a pattern. When dread and negative attitude towards something you don’t want to do so you’d rather put off come into your head, switch it with gratitude. Be thankful for the opportunity, for why this will benefit you or someone around you now, after you do it, or in the future. Instead of viewing it as a monumental mountain of a task, try to break it up into section or beginning, middle, end. Ensure the first step is so small it no longer seems daunting. If you have been putting off paying your debt, maybe the first step would be logging in and looking at your balance to split up evenly betweens months. If you begin your day conquering a big task, you will be surprised how much more productive the rest of the day will be. It will fuel your energy and motivation to getter done!

 

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Over-Scheduling

The problem: This is a common problem for type A’ers. You leave yourself zero minutes for error in your jam-packed day and most likely…something just doesn’t go right and you are most likely…late to s o m e t h i n g…not to mention frazzled!

The resolution:  Leave room in your schedule. I have made a habit to leave room in 30 minute increments, even if my appointment in 5 minutes away. If it takes an hour to get somewhere I schedule an hour and a half. I leave time to the screwed up google map, the uncontrollable situations, and just for a non stressful appointment. It keeps my head clear, my thoughts focused, time for the restroom, for a breath and to not rush. Rushing is the made ingredient for stress. Five extra minutes can go a long way to help you not feel like you are running to catch the day. You want to be running the day, not running to catch up with it.

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Over Thinking

The problem: Whether the problem is big or small, we definitely want to make the “right” choice, yes? Anyone else out there an “over researcher”? Sometimes research and due diligence helps us to choose wisely and i highly recommend doing your homework, but regardless of the decision, it does us no good to spin our wheels for hours and hours obsessing over something and it can definitely cause unnecessary stress and sometimes, if you aren’t in the right headspace, fear.

The resolution: Set a time limit and set amount of time to do your homework on each decision. Research, pray, ask advice to wise people in your life and then cut yourself off. You can analyze past decisions for growth and learning purposes but otherwise, don’t look back. No should’ve, would’ve, could haves. They can’t change what happened and wastes your energy and time and steals your joy and faith. Setting a time, praying about it and going with the decision that brings the most peace no matter what people think or say will make decision making a lot less stressful. IMG_8558

Second Guessing Yourself

The problem: What you know can change and develop as your learn more about a circumstance and get more comfortable with what you are doing.

The resolution: Know that you are making the right decision for you in that moment with the information you have. That is all we can do. Second-guessing won’t change what is and it will drive you crazy and make you feel insecure about other issues if you let yourself go down that path. You did the best you can and if you get more info, you can always confidently adapt or change as it comes in the future. IMG_8560 Trying To Be Perfect

The problem: Aiming to grow into all your potential and being better daily is one thing, but perfectionism is a dangerous road to go on for your emotional, mental and physical well being. You are already perfect by just being created. You are growing into who you are and you are developing skills, character, working on things and such, but none of those things will make you perfect. Unique is perfect and everyone has a different idea of what perfection is…that means…perfection actually doesn’t exist and is completely relative and you can’t live in that world. You will never please everyone and to give you some honest, raw advice…don’t try to. You will a miserable existence and miss out on your life!

The resolution: Enjoy the things you do well and take pleasure in learning. Practice forgiveness and give yourself a break. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Loosen up. Enjoy being content with where you are in life, because one thing about life that is consistent…it is always changing! There will be a day you look back and it won’t matter, or you will have grown past where you are now.  Be gracious to yourself, be humble, be teachable, don’t take it all too seriously! We are here for a brief moment! Success isn’t being the best at something or the richest…it is being truly happy and content in who you are, finding love, living simply, giving, helping other’s and living your life as freely and with as much love and grace as possible. That will satisfy you, not your “idea” of perfection. IMG_8571

Live Well!

J

What I Wore: 

Top: Nordstrom

Necklace/Bracelet/Shorts: Forever 21

Sunnies: Ray Ban’s

Shoes: Forever 21

Purse: Vintage Gucci (ebay)

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3 Steps To Help Achieve Your Personal Goals

IMG_8537 (1)The number one thing in success is to create a game plan to achieve your goals–including a mission statement, a step-by-step strategy, and a timeline. You hold meetings whether with yourself or those you want involved on your team, block out time to complete tasks/plan/create, and invest (time, resources…time). And all of this planning comes together to make your goals attainable.

But when you think about your personal goals, I’m sure the path to achieving them looks a lot messier. It’s enticing to just go with the flow rather than strategically plan an approach–especially when emotions run high–but devising a personal growth plan can be valuable if you truly want to reach your desired goals.

The simple act of drawing up a plan can not only help you visualize your goals and the necessary steps to achieve them, but it can also remedy a lot of the inertia and uncertainty that held you back in the first place.

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These action steps can be useful when creating an effective plan for your personal growth:

  1. Create a personal mission statement. Making a plan to achieve your goals is impossible if you don’t have any. Spend some time brainstorming and throwing around different ideas. Then, condense your ideas into one specific mission statement. Just like a professional mission statement, it should leave no room for misinterpretation and clearly answer the question: “What do you intend to achieve–and what are you committed to doing (and being) to get there?” For example: For someone who wants to start their own cooking courses and books a mission statement could look like this:  “I am passionate to help people create healthy, easy meals for their family and want to provide them with the tools and resources necessary to do so.” You then build your goals around this statement. You can always grow, change and add on to your mission statement, but it gives you a very clear, simple foundation to start your goals and remind you of your purpose. Your why is important! It is what will hold you through!2015-09-24_1443119273
  1. Choose your gurus. However flawless your personal plan is, if you want to max out your potential, you’re going to need the guidance of mentors, advisors, and influencers. Look for a mentor with relevant experience who can act as a sounding board for your ideas, offer feedback, and open doors within established networks that you’re not yet part of. And you don’t just have to rely on in-the-flesh gurus to help you; books by authors you admire, relevant TED Talks, blogs, mastermind groups, or trusted friends and colleagues can be just as valuable in driving you toward your personal goals.IMG_8534
  1. Plan your strategy. Once you’re equipped with a solid set of goals and trusted feedback, you’re in a position to craft your own personal strategic plan. It should provide a clear pathway–complete with opportunities you need to capitalize on, relationships you can leverage, and resources you may need–plotted on a timeline, with ideal dates for completing each step.

You don’t have to rent office space or put on your best suit to get serious about achieving your personal goals. Simply start by figuring out what you want to achieve and finding some good “gurus”–those honest and experienced mentors and advisors who have your best interests at heart. After gathering their advice, create a clear game plan you are committed to executing on, and the rest will follow. When you see your growth as your personal responsibility and acknowledge that who you are may be standing in the way of who you could become, you won’t remain at a standstill for long and your personal development will fuel your success and will give you the motivation to achieve your goals!

IMG_8510How Do Successful People Think?

Successful people clearly know what they want and they think about how to get it.

In contrast, “unsuccessful people tend to think and talk about what they don’t want most of the time. They think about who they are mad at and who is to blame for their problems.”

So, know what you want and be clear about it, and you will make a difference and achieve success. The personal goal setting techniques help you to reach that clarity.

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IMG_8539What I Wore: 

Necklace: Forever 21

Shoes: Urban Outfitters

Tank: Forever 21

Skirt: Vintage (Buffalo Exchange)

Bracelets: Laguna Beach Sawdust Festival

Sunnies: Cole Haan

Purse: Michael Stars

Ring: Lucky Brand

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